Sometimes distance builds up between friends or a conflict separates them. Losing a friend is never easy. 😢 It triggers all kinds of emotions and upheavals: 😣 😕 😨 😫 pain, abandonment, fear, loss of energy, etc.
Losing a friendship means grieving:
- what you liked about the other person – We got on so well together!
- your plans – We were going to sign up for swimming lessons together.
- a group – I’ll never be able to hang out with his/her friends again.
- some habits – I called him/her every evening!
- an ideal – I thought we’d be friends for the rest of our lives.
Everyone heals at their own speed
When we lose a friend, we go through different stages. Everyone is different and experiences these things in their own way. Some people go through all the stages, and others just go through a few of them, in no specific order.
You tend to deny and not understand what’s happening and why.
Once the shock is over, you may feel lots of anger, frustration, a sense of injustice, and an inability to understand.
Guilt and bargaining
You’re ready to do anything to avoid losing your friend. But remember that continuing to hope can be very painful and the person may reject you even more if you try to cling. It’s better to let it go!
Expressing your emotions will help you realize it’s really over. Give yourself the right to cry and be angry. And be sure to try and take your mind off it: continue your activities, go out with your friends, explore new interests, or play sports.
Even though it’s difficult, life goes on. Give yourself time. Gradually, your emotions will die down. One day, you’ll realize that you feel better, you’ve made new friends, and you’re enjoying life again.
To help you get through the hard times, surround yourself with people who love you, like your friends, parents, or family. If necessary, call Tel-jeunes: that’s what we’re here for!