There are many ways to be friends. Some people like to hang out in twos, with one friend at a time. Others like to have one or more groups of friends. All these possibilities are good ones – it depends on each individual!
With one other person or with a group?
When we opt for two-person friendships, we can take the time to discuss things, share ideas, and deepen the relationship. When we prefer to be in a group, we learn about different kinds of people and enjoy group activities. We may also feel closer to certain specific people in the group and form closer friendships with them.
Having several groups
Some kids belong to several different groups. That’s perfectly normal and valuable, because you can share different interests with different groups. However, it may be hard for some of your friends to understand, because they’d like to spend more time with you. You can reassure them by explaining why they’re still important to you, even though you have more than one group.
A group of three
This kind of group can lead to awkward situations. Sometimes one of the friends feels left out or thinks that the other two like each other better. If that happens to you, choose a good time and start a discussion with your friends. Take the time to talk about what you’re feeling and look for solutions together.
In case of conflict
Having a conflict with a friend is always tough. But in a group, it’s even more complicated! Sometimes, people feel obligated to take sides. That can result in tension and even destroy the group. You can decide to remain neutral by being there for both or all people in the conflict, listening to them, and acting as referee to help them solve the problem.
In the end, whether you prefer to be alone with one friend, in a group of three, with several friends, or with several groups, the important thing is to feel comfortable with the model you’ve decided to adopt, based on your personality and your interests.