If your partner shoves you, hits you, insults you, asks you not to see your friends anymore, or forces you to have sex, there’s no doubt that you’re in an unhealthy relationship. Nothing justifies violent behaviour. Despite yourself, you might love someone who hurts you. Tell yourself that we can’t choose our feelings but we can choose whether or not to stay in a relationship. If your relationship makes you suffer or you think it’s unhealthy, talk to an adult you trust, such as a parent, teacher, counsellor, or member of the Tel-jeunes team.