Sexual activity

Sex with vaginal penetration is a sexual practice in which the guy inserts his erect penis into the girl’s vagina. The back-and-forth movement stimulates both the guy’s penis and the girl’s vagina, labia minora, and possibly her clitoris. Depending on the position, the level of stimulation they achieve and the closeness they feel, both the guy and the girl may have an orgasm.

Penetration and sexual touching can happen in various positions, depending on your tastes, your limits, and your comfort level, and those of your partner. There are no rules: just choose the positions you enjoy! Depending on what you feel like and the mood of the moment, you can get creative and try new positions. The goal isn’t to follow a plan or a book or a website… but to let your imagination run wild!

Fellatio (“giving head” or a “blow job”) is when the penis is stimulated by the partner’s mouth, tongue, and lips. Cunnilingus (“going down” or “eating”) is when the vulva and clitoris are stimulated by the partner’s tongue and lips. These practices should be done intimately and respectfully to make sure both partners enjoy them. To protect yourself against BBSTIs, you should use a condom for fellatio and a dental dam for cunnilingus.

Anal penetration (sodomy) is when a guy penetrates his partner’s anus. In addition to doing this gently and gradually, it is recommended that you use a lubricant: unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t lubricate naturally. Although you can see sodomy very often in porn, it’s not a very common practice. If you’re interested, take precautions because it has its risks (pain, injury, infection). To avoid infections, use a condom and change it if you move from the anus to the vagina.

Vibrators and other sex toys are sold only to people aged 18 and over. They’re not necessary for an enjoyable sex life. These toys can create special feelings that you don’t get with your partner, but they can also cause desensitization. You might find that you’re less appreciative of your partner’s touch. In some cases, it could even get more difficult to reach orgasm.

Other sexual practices are shown in movies like 50 Shades of Grey or in porn. These include BDSM (bondage, domination, sadism, and masochism), threesomes, and orgies. It’s normal to be curious, but these practices are really quite rare. Most people don’t do them, and they’re definitely not necessary to enjoy sex. They can be done by consenting adults if they feel like it.

Having problems keeping an erection in adolescence is very rarely due to a physical problem or disability. Most often, it happens because of nervousness or a feeling of not being able to live up to expectations. Are you ready to have sex, and do you want to? Are you worried about the risks? Are you comfortable talking about it with your partner? Go at your own speed. If you’re worried about it, talk to a health care professional.

During sex, you don’t always have enough vaginal lubrication. There are many reasons for this: discomfort, not enough stimulation, menstruation, an effect of birth control pills, etc. Be sure to create a favourable mood and engage in sexual stimulation (foreplay) before penetration. If it’s your first time, your hymen may make penetration more painful. If the problem continues, see a health care professional.

Sex without an orgasm doesn’t mean that it was boring or unsatisfying. You don’t necessarily have an orgasm every time. There are several reasons why you may not have an orgasm: insufficient arousal, overly short or no foreplay, clitoris and other erogenous zones not stimulated enough, something on your mind, worries about not being good enough, or a need to discover your preferences and get to know your body better. These things happen!