Why do fantasies exist?

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Whether they are sexual in nature or not, fantasies are entirely natural. But what exactly are they, and why do they exist?

In adolescence, you go through huge physical and hormonal changes. Your imagination develops and your view of sexuality changes. Don’t worry: having lots of erotic ideas is a sign of good sexual health! Your fantasies allow you to explore your desires, emotions, and sexuality.

 

Fantasies can be:

  • sexual or non-sexual
  • produced by the imagination
  • turned into reality… or not
  • a way of getting sexually aroused, alone or with your partner

 

Nothing obligates you to tell other people about your fantasies or to make them come true. It’s your personal choice. As long as your fantasies stay “tucked away” in your thoughts, you keep control over the situation. Maybe that’s what you want, and that’s fine.

 

You’re the only one who can know if you want to turn a fantasy into reality or not. The important thing is not to do it on the spur of the moment. Think about it! Is it even possible “in real life”? If your fantasy includes your partner, do you think he/she would agree? Have you assessed the risks of catching a BBSTI or causing an unplanned pregnancy?

 

Some fantasies are exciting to think about, but if you try to make them happen, you’ll have to live with the consequences!