How do I tell my parents I want to go to therapy?

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ViolonPersuasive3

elle/elle

2a
Me and my parents were never close like I can’t talk to them about guy stuff not even to my mom. But these past few weeks I’ve wanted to go to therapy because I feel like I have anxiety and depression and I would love to talk about it to someone who can help me. But I’m worried that they’ll be worried and ask me if everything’s going ok at school? Thank you so much for reading and please help thank you ❤️

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    TisaneBienveillante10 alltheme

    Ado TJ·elle/elle·17 ans

    2a
    Hi ViolonPersuasive3 :)
    What you are living doesn't look easy at all. You have such a good reflex to ask for therapy, it is exactly what I think you should do. But I understand it can really be difficult to talk about it to your parents… This is absolutely normal not to know how to bring up the subject, you are not the only one to live this.

    So my idea is to write them a letter. Maybe it will be easier to talk about it with words you already thought of than being in front of them and scared of their reaction, who knows! You could write in it that you don’t really want them to bombard you with questions, that you just do not feel great and need their help. It just depends on how you feel the most comfortable : speaking or writing. Or it can even be neither of them! What I mean is that you could maybe look for a documentary, an article, a movie or a song on the topic of anxiety and depression, and show it to your parents so they can better understand your reality. I am sure there are so many on the Internet that you could easily find ;)

    Also, I don’t know if you know it, but if you are 14 or more, you can see a doctor, a psychologist, a counselor or any health professional without your parents’ consent. The “meeting” will be confidential and unless it is very serious, the doctor does not have the right to inform your parents of it. But you know, there aren't only psychologists to help you, there are also all your school therapists, Tel-Jeunes and many other phone services that you can contact. I give you the link to a 24/7 mental health service offered in English and French right here if you want to look at it :
    https://kidshelpphone.ca/

    I hope my message will help you a bit :) If there’s anything else you would like to share, we’ll always be there for you, never forget that. I wish you will feel better soon. Take care of yourself ❤

    P-S : I’m so sorry for my English, let’s say it isn’t my best school subject ;)
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    Casouletprodigieux3

    elle/elle·16 ans

    1a
    Hello!
    It's not easy what you're experiencing.. I think it's really good of you that you want to go see a psychologist, it's really a good idea. I would like to start by telling you that if you are 14 years old and + I believe that you can go to the CLSC without your parents knowing. I also advise you to try to tell your parents in a simple and respectful way. If they do not listen and do not understand, I advise you to go talk to a TES at school! I hope I helped!
    xxx
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    RoseSympathique7 alltheme

    Ado TJ·elle/elle·17 ans

    1a
    Hi!
    Hope you are doing a little better today :/

    I totally understand how you feel. Know that you are not alone in this and that you are right when you say you want to talk to someone to be understood. That's a feeling everybody wants so I think it's normal you feel that way.

    I loved the letter idea. Could be something that would help your parents to have a reflexion on.

    I hope it's gonna be okay and that you will find the help you need. By the way, I just wanted to add that there may be someone at school like a psychologist or someone like that that you could try to talk to.

    I hope I helped you! Remember we are here if you need anything :)) Take care xx

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    RoseOptimiste7

    elle/elle

    19h
    I’m scared.

    Basically my dad got an IRM and his ligament of the shoulder is ripped from over working 7 days a week, 72 hours and they saw something on the bone and will go check with another machine that is known for detecting tumors (don’t know the name) He could loose his job and that would devastate him as he’s worked so hard, being at home he’s been more unhappy even joking about suicide once a while and argues about everything. I’m scared for our financial stability if he gets it and my mom is cold to him sometimes (she’s overworked from her 42+ hours because of her diabetes (type 1.) and IGA disease (Nephropathy) She also needs to have iron shots and are given only when she’s at her lowest. and so much things she suffers so she’s extremely exhausted and tired) and they don’t have good communication rn. You probably get why I clean the most now, my sisters became phone addicts and everyone in the family is so close yet so apart. And my right hand ligaments are hurting and shoulder when I write, I’m scared for my book and my cleaning and my future yk, how do you heal that anyway? lol? I guess. I’ve been writing a lot honestly these lasts days and today I finished my birth control and my period hit, couldn’t even go to school or eat I was crying or groaning, I look melodramatic but hey I’m a woman. I really could be prone to cancer or diabetes 1 but my parents never had money to test us all, my ulcer pills have been double in dose and are better for now. (My aunt had cancer (we don’t know the prime source except ear where it developed honestly.) , my grandpa (testicular) my aunts grandma (boo bs cancer) and a lot had it.) oh yeah I’m writing a book actually I didn’t mention it before and I’m heavily in literature and poems now, I followed what I love and it’s backing up on me (I was even practicing calligraphy, if anyone thinks I can use the computer, that’d be smart of you, but I can’t write as fast, i love writing on paper too. Even if I’m destroying my hand.) I always make those post longs don’t I? Eh, I get feed back anyway. Thanks for anyone that read this. Mwah😼🎀

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    BasilicPlaisante5

    elle/elle·20 ans

    1j
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    Salut!

    Cela fait 8 mois que je suis en couple avec ma copine. Nous communiquons bien ensemble de se qu’on aime ou non. On s’ouvrent à l’autre de ce qui nous excite. Nous avons découvert les zones érogènes nous stimulant. Nous nous aimons et nous sommes attirées par l’autre.

    Bref, tout va bien sauf qu’elle a de la difficulté à se laisser aller. Elle ne me donne pas pleinement sa confiance à ce moment là. Elle dit qu’elle a comme un blocage a se laisser jouir.

    Je la rassure toujours que ce n’est pas un problème et que c’est quelque chose que nous devons travailler ensemble et que je suis patiente et prête à essayer pleins d’affaires afin que ça marche. Cela dur depuis des mois maintenant et j’essaie toujours de comprendre pourquoi elle ne se laisse pas aller? Je ne la brusque pas pourtant, ne lui dit pas de choses déplacer, je l’encourage, mais en vain rien.

    J’ai demandé à ce qu’elle me dirige durant l’acte, mais elle a de la difficulté à me diriger pendant. Disant qu’elle se perd dans les sensations.

    Je sais exactement où la toucher autant avec les doigts, la langue pour son point G ou le clito, mais elle n’arrive toujours pas à jouir. Pourtant elle est excité durant l’acte et on est même connectée.

    Est-ce que c’est parce que je m’y prend mal?

    Est-ce que c’est parce qu’il manque quelque chose pour la fair jouir?

    Avez-vous des suggestions pour moi qui vous a déjà aider pour ce genre de problème?

    Je suis vraiment ouverte aux expériences et aux suggestions pour m’aider. Alors n’hésite pas à m’en donner!

    Merci!

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    CaféBrave2

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    Allo allo!! Pour faire ça vite, j'ai eu des cours de sexualité récemment en science. Je m'y connais quand même bien dans le domaine de la puberté féminine et la grossesse. Le prof a dit des infos qui ne m'ont pas l'air correctes, comme par exemple "au jour XX les filles ne peuvent pas tomber/ont des très minimes chances de tomber enceintes" et il a montré une vidéo quand même stéréotypique sur le cycle d'une femme. Mon amie est d'accord aussi et elle a une mère pharmacienne à qui elle en a parlé et sa mère était épouvantée. Je fais quoi?? On a fini le sujet (je pense) mais pareil je sais qu'il y a des filles qui ne sont pas aussi éduquées sur le sujet donc elles vont prendre l'info et l'utiliser. Mon amie en a déjà aidé une et elle à le même point de vue que moi. Aidez moi svpppp