Sex

Sexuality isn’t a question of performance. Sex is mainly a way of connecting with the other person. If you keep that in mind, you can’t “do it wrong”! As long as you pay attention, you’ll be a “good” partner.

You don’t know what to do in the beginning? That’s normal! First you have to get to know the other person. Give yourself the right to discuss things, to make sure you both have a good time.

Why not ask your partner what he/she likes best and doesn’t like so much? You can’t be expected to guess… and you know what? Maybe your partner’s finding this out at the same time as you! Most important, don’t focus on orgasm at any cost. Pleasant feelings are also worthwhile!

The consequences of forgetting vary depending on the kind of birth control pill, the time in your cycle when you forgot, and the gap between the time you took your last pill and when you had sex. It’s complicated, eh?

Briefly, if you forgot to take one or more pills, call Info-Santé (811). The nurse will help you figure things out by evaluating the situation and its risks with you, based on your answers. You can also consult your pharmacist or the nurse at your school or CLSC for support. But don’t wait: the faster you react, the better! Of course, if you feel comfortable doing so, talk about it with your parents or friends… or contact us!

There’s no law prohibiting you from falling in love, but there is one that governs sexual activity. It’s the legislation concerning sexual consentl. “Sexual activity” includes kissing, foreplay, touching, and penetration. The legal age of consent to sexual activity with an adult (18 and over) is 16 years old.

Of course, some young people are sexually active before that! The law is les severe if the age difference between the partners isn’t too big. For a teen aged 14 or 15, the partner can be a maximum of 5 years older (so 19 or 20) AND cannot be in a position of authority. For someone aged 12 or 13, the maximum age difference is 2 years (so 14 or 15 years old).

Do you want to do it? That’s the first question to ask yourself! Don’t let yourself be influenced by other people. Your friends might claim they’ve already done it and your partner might really want to do it with you. But remember that this is YOUR experience, and you can take things at your own speed.

Ask yourself another important question: Do you trust the other person? Having sex for the first time can be embarrassing and stressful. If you’re able to talk about it respectfully with your partner, that’s a good sign. Together, you may be ready to share this experience. If it’s not 100% clear in your mind, that’s normal! The good news is that you ALWAYS have the right to change your mind, at any time.