I’m interested in somebody. Should I tell him/her about it?
⚖️ Weigh the pros and cons
When you decide to confess your feelings, you can’t predict how the other person will react. If you talk about it, you’ll have gotten it off your mind. On the other hand, you might be rejected. Do you feel ready to handle the other person’s various possible reactions? Take time to think it over before acting.
👉 Wait for the right time
If the other person has just broken up with someone, is already in a relationship, or is the ex of one of your friends, you might want to wait for things to change before you talk about what you feel. It’s all a matter of timing!
👉 Make sure you have a “real” crush
Sometimes we can feel really in love one morning and the next day… nothing! Or someone who didn’t interest us before suddenly makes our heart beat faster. Is your feeling a lasting one? To find out, try to get to know the person better.
👉 Spend time with your crush
Find ways to spend time with your crush, first with other friends, then just the two of you. In the beginning, you might do group activities with your friends. That way, you can find out if you have interests in common, if your crush is serious, and even if the other person is interested in you or not.
👉 Watch for the signs
Is your crush sending you signs of interest? They might be comments, paying close attention, listening carefully… Your friends’ opinion could help you figure this out.
👉 Go slow
Are you ready to talk to the person? There’s no need for a big declaration! You can talk about his/her qualities, say that you like spending time with him/her, etc. Then the person might tell you if he/she shares your feelings.
Even if you take the time to do everything right, the other person might need time to think things over or tell you he/she isn’t interested. It’s never a pleasant experience, but at least you’ll finally know what he/she thinks!