When your heart is broken 💔, you often need time to heal 🤕. It’s as if you were sick or injured: you need to take care of yourself and wait for your heart to heal.
Breaking up is often a huge shock, an upheaval. It can trigger all kinds of effects in your head, heart, and body. For example, you might:
🕳 feel pain, a sense of abandonment, fear, emptiness
😴 have trouble concentrating or feel tired
🍽 start eating more or less than before
🛏 have trouble sleeping or, on the other hand, need more sleep
😔 lose your motivation or energy
😩 feel depressed or lose hope
All these feelings are natural. When you break up, you go through a grieving process: you have to put lots of important things behind you all at once:
- what you liked about the other person – He/she was so sweet! 😍
- plans and dreams – We were going to travel together this summer. ✈️ 🏝 🗺
- friends – I’ll never be able to hang out with his/her friends again. 🙍🏽 🙍🏽♂️ 👭
- habits – We called each other every evening! 📞 🌙
- ideals – I wanted to spend my life with him/her. 👴🏾 👵🏾 ❤️
To get through your heartbreak more easily, you can try these ideas:
- Cultivate your own life and happiness. Do things you like, go out with your friends, and play sports. 🧘♀️ 🏂 🥅 That will help you think about other things and feel better. 💆🏼 😌
- Spend time with good people. Your friends, parents, a counsellor, or Tel-jeunes can help you get through this hard time.
- Be patient. Over time ⏳🕰, the pain will get less and less.
- Take back your life and let your ex lead his/her own life too. Don’t try to make your ex feel guilty or convince him/her to come back. The two of you had reasons for breaking up, and those problems are probably still there. And avoid alcohol or drugs: they’re likely to make you feel worse.
➡️ ➡️ A broken heart is never easy. If you find yourself feeling more and more depressed 😢 or you’re full of dark thoughts, don’t stay alone. Talk to an adult you trust or call Tel-jeunes. ☎️ 💜 💬