What are your values?
Do you need to have feelings for the person you make love with? Do love and sex go together in your view? If you can’t keep them separate, sex without love may not be for you.
What are your motivations?
What are you looking for? Pleasure, sexual satisfaction? The hope that this relationship will turn into love? Sex without love doesn’t meet all your needs or live up to all your expectations. Clearly identify what you’re looking for in this experience.
Have you thought about the consequences?
What would happen if one of you developed loving feelings for the other? Would you lose a friend? Have you talked about preventing pregnancy and BBSTIs? Be sure your partner and you are on the same wavelength on these questions.
What about your limits?
Do you feel that you respect yourself? Do you feel that your partner respects you too? Are you okay with your partner having sex with other people? If yes, why? How would you feel if your partner said that he/she was in love with someone else? Answering these questions will help you set your limits.
Are you on the same wavelength?
Do you discuss your expectations? Do you talk about them again regularly, in case things have changed? People and their feelings evolve. What you both wanted at the start of your relationship may no longer suit one of you. Being on the same wavelength is one thing, but staying there often requires adjustments.