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How to live through a heartbreak?

When your heart is broken πŸ’”, you often need time to heal πŸ€•. It’s as if you were sick or injured: you need to take care of yourself and wait for your heart to heal.

Breaking up is often a huge shock, an upheaval. It can trigger all kinds of effects in your head, heart, and body. For example, you might:

πŸ•³  feel pain, a sense of abandonment, fear, emptiness

😴  have trouble concentrating or feel tired

🍽  start eating more or less than before

πŸ›  have trouble sleeping or, on the other hand, need more sleep

πŸ˜”  lose your motivation or energy

😩  feel depressed or lose hope

All these feelings are natural. When you break up, you go through a grieving process: you have to put lots of important things behind you all at once:

  • what you liked about the other person – He/she was so sweet! πŸ˜ 
  • plans and dreams – We were going to travel together this summer. βœˆοΈ 🏝 πŸ—Ί
  • friends – I’ll never be able to hang out with his/her friends again. πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ™πŸ½β€β™‚οΈ πŸ‘­
  • habits – We called each other every evening! πŸ“ž πŸŒ™
  • ideals – I wanted to spend my life with him/her. πŸ‘΄πŸΎ πŸ‘΅πŸΎ ❀️ 


To get through your heartbreak more easily, you can try these ideas:

  • Cultivate your own life and happiness. Do things you like, go out with your friends, and play sports. πŸ§˜β€β™€οΈ πŸ‚ πŸ₯… That will help you think about other things and feel better. πŸ’†πŸΌ πŸ˜Œ
  • Spend time with good people. Your friends, parents, a counsellor, or Tel-jeunes can help you get through this hard time.  
  • Be patient. Over time β³πŸ•°, the pain will get less and less.
  • Take back your life and let your ex lead his/her own life too. Don’t try to make your ex feel guilty or convince him/her to come back. The two of you had reasons for breaking up, and those problems are probably still there. And avoid alcohol or drugs: they’re likely to make you feel worse.


➑️ ➑️ A broken heart is never easy. If you find yourself feeling more and more depressed πŸ˜’ or you’re full of dark thoughts, don’t stay alone. Talk to an adult you trust or call Tel-jeunes. β˜ŽοΈ πŸ’œ πŸ’¬