How to talk when it's tough
Talking about your problems is never easy. Whether it's exam stress, family conflicts, complicated friendships, or questions about yourself, keeping everything bottled up can quickly become overwhelming. But how do you find the strength and the words when you feel stuck? Here are some tips to help you take the plunge and confide in someone.
To remember
👉Choosing a trusted confidant and a comfortable mode of expression (face-to-face, written, helpline...) facilitates disclosure.
👉Daring to ask for help and expressing one's difficulties is a sign of courage and the first step towards well-being.
👉Confidential resources exist, just like Tel-jeunes.
Identify the Right Person and the Right Place
Before you start, take some time to think about who you would like to confide in. Is there a trusted adult in your life? A teacher, a sports coach, a family member? Think of someone you trust and who will listen to you without judgment. If you prefer to talk to someone outside of your immediate circle, school counselors, youth centers, or helplines like Tel-jeunes are there for you.
The place you choose to confide in is just as important. Find a place where you feel comfortable and safe to speak freely. If you are apprehensive about being overheard or interrupted, online resources and text messaging can be good alternatives.
Find the Right Way to Communicate
Talking face-to-face isn't always easy. If you're more comfortable writing, why not write a letter that you can then read to the person of your choice? You can also start with text exchanges before moving on to a voice or in-person conversation. Exploring the testimonials of other young people going through similar difficulties can also help you put words to what you are feeling and give you the courage to break the silence.
Breaking the Ice: How to Get Started
Often the hardest part is finding the words to start the conversation. A simple tip is to clearly state your need: "I need to talk to you about something, it's difficult for me." Don't hesitate to verbalize your fears either: "I'm afraid of being judged by saying this, but I need help." Expressing your emotions openly will allow the other person to understand your state of mind and be more attentive.
Boys Have the Right to Ask for Help Too
Contrary to some popular beliefs, boys and men need to talk about their problems as much as girls do. Unfortunately, social pressure can push them to bottle up their emotions and try to handle everything on their own. It is important to remember that asking for help is a sign of courage and strength, not weakness.
Confidentiality and Support
It is normal to wonder if your parents will be informed of your actions. Know that you can contact resources such as Tel-jeunes, youth centers, or school counselors in complete confidentiality. If you need more regular follow-up with a professional and you are under 14, your parents' consent will be required.
