5 myths about asking for help

No one can really help me. 

Being caught up in your problems can prevent you from seeing any solutions. A trusted individual can show you that it’s possible to get better. While they may not have gone through the exact same things as you, they certainly have already felt sadness, anger, fear, shame – just like you. They can understand these feelings and remind you that you’re not alone.

My problem is not serious enough. 

Many people will wait until they’ve exhausted all possible solutions or are feeling really low before talking about what’s wrong. But asking for help is not only for long-term, very serious problems. You can (and should!) talk about what’s going on way before you get to the point that you don't know what to do. In fact, you have the right to ask for help with any issue that’s important to you, whenever you feel the need.

I can solve my problem by myself.

There’s no shame in asking for help. Regardless of what you might have heard, it’s not a sign of weakness at all. On the contrary, being able to recognize that you need others takes a lot of courage. Even if you’re strong, you also have the right to be supported when facing challenges.

I'm going to annoy my loved ones if I talk about it.

You probably like to know how your loved ones are really doing. Well, it’s the same for them! If you're worried about being a bother, remember that others can always tell you if it isn't a good time or if they don't have the tools to help you. You can also turn to a counsellor if that helps you confide in someone without feeling like you’re being annoying; it's their job to be there for you.

I tried and my problem came back, so things will never change.

Feeling like you're starting over can be really discouraging. Getting help can take time; there’s rarely a quick fix that will make your problem go away overnight.

Dealing with a difficult situation often involves trial and error. Every time you reach out for support, you’re taking a small step forward, even if you don't see changes immediately. Don’t put pressure on yourself and give yourself time. Remember that you can ask for help as often as you need.